Old and Recent Internet findings. Some I stumbled across, some I was introduced to.
http://sleeptalkinman.blogspot.com/ - A woman records her Husband at night having some abmormal and hilarious outbursts
http://disneycomics.free.fr/Ducks/Rosa/show.php?num=1&loc=D2002-033&s=date- The Uncle Scrooge/Donald Duck Comic that Inception appears to have thefted from
Geekology.com, XKCD, Dinosaur comics.
Ok. I’m actually going to not put any more. I could go on forever with youtube videos and hilarious websites.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Monday, August 30, 2010
These are the self proclaimed neurosis
Have you ever felt certain ways about certain things/ people when you know they are unfair or irrational? Case in point: my fear of spiders. Or, discontent with your significant other’s exes or opposite sex friends. What about a friend of a friend? Or someone that reminds you of an Ex you ended up unhappy with. A relative or a stranger who unknowingly pushes a button.
I choose to believe that the first example is legitimate and that someday, when the spiders begin their apocalyptic takeover of the world those of us with said phobia can say “We told you so” and those of you who have mocked us can cry “why didn’t I listen before it was too late”. It will go down in history alongside global warming or cooling or whatever, and the frame of mind that Bush was a good idea (either of them) – people will wish they weren’t so stupid.
However, I hate feeling such things towards people! Even if I COULD have a legitimate reason to dislike them, I find myself either pissed at myself yet unrelenting of the feelings, or overcompensating when I realize I associated them with someone or something in an unfair way that led to negative feelings. Even if I could be right and I should not like them (as I have been in the past) all that it does is make my own life more complicated in the mean time. These are the self proclaimed neurosis that actually get in the way- who wants to have to think negatively about someone they do not legitimately know?!
Not EYE said the blindman. Not I.
Add this to my list of goals: quit the nonsense!
I choose to believe that the first example is legitimate and that someday, when the spiders begin their apocalyptic takeover of the world those of us with said phobia can say “We told you so” and those of you who have mocked us can cry “why didn’t I listen before it was too late”. It will go down in history alongside global warming or cooling or whatever, and the frame of mind that Bush was a good idea (either of them) – people will wish they weren’t so stupid.
However, I hate feeling such things towards people! Even if I COULD have a legitimate reason to dislike them, I find myself either pissed at myself yet unrelenting of the feelings, or overcompensating when I realize I associated them with someone or something in an unfair way that led to negative feelings. Even if I could be right and I should not like them (as I have been in the past) all that it does is make my own life more complicated in the mean time. These are the self proclaimed neurosis that actually get in the way- who wants to have to think negatively about someone they do not legitimately know?!
Not EYE said the blindman. Not I.
Add this to my list of goals: quit the nonsense!
Friday, August 20, 2010
10 Things I hate about breakups…and the people involved in them
The concept of Revenge:
Why is this a thing? Who are you trying to get back and what are you trying to accomplish? Does it actually make you feel happier to do something cruel to someone else (if it does, I might suggest that the only “dates” you go on are to a therapist). If you care so little about someone that you can do or say something cruel and malicious on purpose and are fully aware of your actions and the consequential reactions- then why do you care that they hurt you in the first place?
Desire to make yourself sadder:
Why do people do this. I’m sad, so I’m going to listen to sad music and watch sad movies. Or, even better, the break-ee asks the break-er to talk to them over and over again just so that they can pour some salt in the wounds a little more efficiently. If you are lucky enough to be friends with the person you were with, had a healthy break up, and want to continue to be friends with them- put it on hold for a bit. Don’t see them for 2 weeks – 2 months (depending on the length of the relationship) and try to talk to them as little as possible- but especially don’t talk about the relationship and how sad you are. This is just causing unnecessary and embarrassing pain!
Friends who say the wrong thing:
I told you so’s, I never liked her/him’s or let’s get drunk until you puke, crap/pee yourself, and/or solicit yourself in ridiculous ways…’s…are not only unhelpful in the immediate, short term, or long run, but ARE detrimental to the health of the person involved, wouldn’t you agree? Oh, and from experience, you can make someone stop coming to you when they really need a friend if you just criticize the decisions they made (or will make- because they will likely falter). A while ago I learned to be a lot more accepting of the “mistakes” that friends make…luckily before it was too late. And FYI- you aren’t perfect. You WILL do something stupid someday.
Misery Loves Company:
saying to the break-ee that the break-er was perfect and you loved them and you wish it didn’t have to end- that doesn’t make people feel better. Don’t hate…but don’t join in on the misery.
Set ups:
Unless you are asked- don’t. Unless you are ready- don’t. Oh, and if you’ve asked previously and the person has said firmly “no, never” or even “no, not now” leave it be until/unless they come to you.
Change:
Grow as a person throughout your life. If at all possible, travel and meet new people. Learn from old relationships…but never change or expect someone else to change if it isn’t something that you/they want. Compromise, sure, but trying to get someone back by making sacrifices (especially one-sided sacrifices) leads to resentment. Resentment is an ultimate killer of relationships but more importantly, your own sanity/happiness- you can date someone who goes out once or twice a week with their buddies without the world coming to an end. Also, if the other person refuses to stop doing something that hurts you- why even try to continue to ask? Just walk.
Neurosis: Mine.
Serial Monogomy:
Just because you got out of a long term relationship does not mean you need to immediately replace it with another to feel better. I recommend that everyone tries being single for a while. And I don’t even mean go on multiple dates and enjoy the “single life” that people always talk about- I mean BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF. If you have never tried this before, wait until you are not heart broken and do not have a crush on someone for at least a few months. I tried this out for 6 years and am extremely content with who I am (2 years would have been enough- I went overboard). I believe that I can avoid unhealthy relationships because of this fact. This is not necessarily because I make better choices, but because I know that when something starts to go bad I can just leave. This will not be the end of the world. In fact, I have been happy alone before and I can be happy alone again. Which reminds me of another thing…
I will nevers:
I will never get over this person, I will never be happy again, this sadness will not go away.
Once you’ve been through a few heart aches you begin to realize this is utter bull shit. I get that when you love someone the idea of getting over them and them changing their mind sounds like the worst possible thing- but think about this: if you were over them, and they changed their mind- would you actually care?!
Never-Ending Cycles:
If you broke up, you broke up for a reason. I understand that people sometimes break up in the heat of the moment, or break up for a while…become new people…and find each other again. HOWEVER…if you have done this more than once it’s likely time to find each other on opposite sides of the country (or, at least, keep the F*** away from each other…seriously).
Why is this a thing? Who are you trying to get back and what are you trying to accomplish? Does it actually make you feel happier to do something cruel to someone else (if it does, I might suggest that the only “dates” you go on are to a therapist). If you care so little about someone that you can do or say something cruel and malicious on purpose and are fully aware of your actions and the consequential reactions- then why do you care that they hurt you in the first place?
Desire to make yourself sadder:
Why do people do this. I’m sad, so I’m going to listen to sad music and watch sad movies. Or, even better, the break-ee asks the break-er to talk to them over and over again just so that they can pour some salt in the wounds a little more efficiently. If you are lucky enough to be friends with the person you were with, had a healthy break up, and want to continue to be friends with them- put it on hold for a bit. Don’t see them for 2 weeks – 2 months (depending on the length of the relationship) and try to talk to them as little as possible- but especially don’t talk about the relationship and how sad you are. This is just causing unnecessary and embarrassing pain!
Friends who say the wrong thing:
I told you so’s, I never liked her/him’s or let’s get drunk until you puke, crap/pee yourself, and/or solicit yourself in ridiculous ways…’s…are not only unhelpful in the immediate, short term, or long run, but ARE detrimental to the health of the person involved, wouldn’t you agree? Oh, and from experience, you can make someone stop coming to you when they really need a friend if you just criticize the decisions they made (or will make- because they will likely falter). A while ago I learned to be a lot more accepting of the “mistakes” that friends make…luckily before it was too late. And FYI- you aren’t perfect. You WILL do something stupid someday.
Misery Loves Company:
saying to the break-ee that the break-er was perfect and you loved them and you wish it didn’t have to end- that doesn’t make people feel better. Don’t hate…but don’t join in on the misery.
Set ups:
Unless you are asked- don’t. Unless you are ready- don’t. Oh, and if you’ve asked previously and the person has said firmly “no, never” or even “no, not now” leave it be until/unless they come to you.
Change:
Grow as a person throughout your life. If at all possible, travel and meet new people. Learn from old relationships…but never change or expect someone else to change if it isn’t something that you/they want. Compromise, sure, but trying to get someone back by making sacrifices (especially one-sided sacrifices) leads to resentment. Resentment is an ultimate killer of relationships but more importantly, your own sanity/happiness- you can date someone who goes out once or twice a week with their buddies without the world coming to an end. Also, if the other person refuses to stop doing something that hurts you- why even try to continue to ask? Just walk.
Neurosis: Mine.
Serial Monogomy:
Just because you got out of a long term relationship does not mean you need to immediately replace it with another to feel better. I recommend that everyone tries being single for a while. And I don’t even mean go on multiple dates and enjoy the “single life” that people always talk about- I mean BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF. If you have never tried this before, wait until you are not heart broken and do not have a crush on someone for at least a few months. I tried this out for 6 years and am extremely content with who I am (2 years would have been enough- I went overboard). I believe that I can avoid unhealthy relationships because of this fact. This is not necessarily because I make better choices, but because I know that when something starts to go bad I can just leave. This will not be the end of the world. In fact, I have been happy alone before and I can be happy alone again. Which reminds me of another thing…
I will nevers:
I will never get over this person, I will never be happy again, this sadness will not go away.
Once you’ve been through a few heart aches you begin to realize this is utter bull shit. I get that when you love someone the idea of getting over them and them changing their mind sounds like the worst possible thing- but think about this: if you were over them, and they changed their mind- would you actually care?!
Never-Ending Cycles:
If you broke up, you broke up for a reason. I understand that people sometimes break up in the heat of the moment, or break up for a while…become new people…and find each other again. HOWEVER…if you have done this more than once it’s likely time to find each other on opposite sides of the country (or, at least, keep the F*** away from each other…seriously).
Monday, August 16, 2010
Breaking up is hard to do
My Tips to breaking up Inspired by sad friends (yes, I have a boy now but I have enough experience to know what works- try it...add to it...love it):
- DO NOT LISTEN TO SAD MUSIC OR WATCH SAD/ROMANTIC MOVIES. You are crying enough, don’t try to make yourself sadder- why would this help!?
- When you are feeling particularly down but need to be somewhere and don’t want to cry (or, maybe someone is visiting you or you just don’t fee like crying anymore), stick a pen or pencil in your mouth for 2-5 minutes. It forces your muscles to do the same thing that your face does when you smile- and releases... happiness(!!) (endorphins or some such)…also, it could help in part because you laugh at yourself for being a dork.
- Also, try being a dork. It can be easier to laugh when it is at yourself.
- Write! If it helps to write someone or talk to someone about what happened, do it. If it helps to write an angry, sad, disappointed etc… poem or even a few sentences- do it. Try it.
- Let yourself cry when you feel down but keep a cool washcloth near-by for your eyes. Lay down- be alone, without any music or anything and just let yourself cry. Make sure you can follow it up with another activity like watching a comedic show or movie, so you don’t go to sleep with your eyes all puffed out (trust me, this will make you more depressed in the morning when you wake up and look at yourself)
- When you do listen to music make sure it has a beat- and don’t feel foolish for wanting to change a song that even remotely reminds you of the person you are trying to get over.
- Go for coffee with friends or even by yourself- it does help to be around people even if the aim is merely to make yourself stop crying. Maybe it will not make you happy (I suspect it will make you at least a little happy) but it will feel easier not to cry.
- Find something- ANYTHING else to think about if even for just a couple of hours a day. Try to learn something new or go back to an old hobby. Watch youtube videos, read, learn how to create something.
- Finally, when you find yourself thinking “I’ll never find anyone” “Ill never be happy again” “no one loves me” “I’m the saddest I’ve ever been” “I can’t handle/take this” yell, in your head, “stop being a mental case- you KNOW this gets better, you KNOW it is possible to care about someone else and you KNOW that you can work through it”. Even if you don’t believe it, don’t let yourself think the other things.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Recipes
I want to cook. I need to develop a recipe collection...maybe some fancy type of document that I can search and such...I've made such things for work I just have to get motivated to do so.
I should rate them by taste.
This means I need a scale for sweetness, spicy, overall yum etc..
If any one out there on the interweb wants to share feel free.
I'll make anything from Ultimate KD to Chicken Cordon Bleu
I should rate them by taste.
This means I need a scale for sweetness, spicy, overall yum etc..
If any one out there on the interweb wants to share feel free.
I'll make anything from Ultimate KD to Chicken Cordon Bleu
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