Breaking up is hard to do

My Tips to breaking up Inspired by sad friends (yes, I have a boy now but I have enough experience to know what works- try it...add to it...love it):

• DO NOT LISTEN TO SAD MUSIC OR WATCH SAD/ROMANTIC MOVIES. You are crying enough, don’t try to make yourself sadder- why would this help!?
• When you are feeling particularly down but need to be somewhere and don’t want to cry (or, maybe someone is visiting you or you just don’t fee like crying anymore), stick a pen or pencil in your mouth for 2-5 minutes. It forces your muscles to do the same thing that your face does when you smile- and releases... happiness(!!) (endorphins or some such)…also, it could help in part because you laugh at yourself for being a dork.
• Also, try being a dork. It can be easier to laugh when it is at yourself.
• Write! If it helps to write someone or talk to someone about what happened, do it. If it helps to write an angry, sad, disappointed etc… poem or even a few sentences- do it. Try it.
• Let yourself cry when you feel down but keep a cool washcloth near-by for your eyes. Lay down- be alone, without any music or anything and just let yourself cry. Make sure you can follow it up with another activity like watching a comedic show or movie, so you don’t go to sleep with your eyes all puffed out (trust me, this will make you more depressed in the morning when you wake up and look at yourself)
• When you do listen to music make sure it has a beat- and don’t feel foolish for wanting to change a song that even remotely reminds you of the person you are trying to get over.
• Go for coffee with friends or even by yourself- it does help to be around people even if the aim is merely to make yourself stop crying. Maybe it will not make you happy (I suspect it will make you at least a little happy) but it will feel easier not to cry.
• Find something- ANYTHING else to think about if even for just a couple of hours a day. Try to learn something new or go back to an old hobby. Watch youtube videos, read, learn how to create something.
• Finally, when you find yourself thinking “I’ll never find anyone” “Ill never be happy again” “no one loves me” “I’m the saddest I’ve ever been” “I can’t handle/take this” yell, in your head, “stop being a mental case- you KNOW this gets better, you KNOW it is possible to care about someone else and you KNOW that you can work through it”. Even if you don’t believe it, don’t let yourself think the other things.